Kristy Smith’s notes from a Focus on the Family broadcast with Dawson McAllister entitled “How to Know You’re in Love”
| Infatuation | Love |
| X Based on little-known facts about the other person | <3 Knows and accepts the other person as he or she is |
| X Won’t pass the test of time | <3 Time is its greatest friend |
| X Is purely an emotion, thus is subject to change and wavering | <3 An emotional need and an act of the will |
| X Is blind to reality | <3 Is not blind, but seeks the truth |
| (The following comparisons are based on 1 Corinthians 13) | |
| X In a big hurry | <3 Patient |
| X Wants to change the other person | <3 Knows and accepts them |
| X Easily threatened, jealous | <3 Trusts God, allows the other person to be free |
| X Self-centered (“What will benefit ME?”) | <3 Does not seek its own (“How can I serve others?”) |
Some questions to ask when considering character qualities in a potential life partner:
(I know that there can be an almost exhaustive list in this area, but these are some mentioned by Mr. McAllister.)
- What happens when this person is disappointed?
- What happens when he is cross?
- What happens when he doesn’t get his way?
- Where does he stand with Jesus Christ?
- What are his communication skills like?
“Selfishness is the opposite of love.”
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