by Heather
It was only a line from a character in a movie, but it bothered me. Two married women were talking about marriage, when one shared that she wanted out. She was convinced that her marriage was loveless and boring because her days consisted of errands and taking care of children.
I couldn’t help but think how wrong she was. Those daily routines are what matter the most!
We’ve been taught our whole lives — through movies, books, cards and even the radio — that love is this giant fluffy feeling.
We are taught that love is a bouquet of flowers, dark chocolate and gifts.
But sometimes, love is having dinner on time.
Sometimes, love is changing the oil in the car.
Coming home to the same person every night.
Falling asleep before the movie even ends. And understanding.
Sharing quiet moments together.
And yes, there are those special moments when he brings you flowers or you prepare a candlelit dinner.
But this in and of itself is not love.
The flowers, the chocolate — they are gifts that you give each other in celebration of what you have every single day, together.
Heather blogs regularly on Mrs. Southern Bride about life and love, sharing beauty through the lens of her camera. She says, ”I am wife to Joshua, homemaker, photographer, blogger, dreamer and lover of wonderful books. I have a slight obsession with Godiva Chocolate, Snow patrol and all things Irish & French.”
How very true! Especially since becoming engaged, I have realized that a lot of times taking time just to talk, completing a task the other has asked us to do, taking an interest in each other’s activities or lending a listening ear means a lot more than fancy gifts.