Comments on: Marriage Is Not My Highest Calling http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/ Fri, 19 Mar 2010 04:52:50 -0700 hourly 1 By: Single-Mindedness | Young Ladies Christian Fellowship http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10715 Single-Mindedness | Young Ladies Christian Fellowship Wed, 10 Feb 2010 15:24:38 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10715 [...] Not the Main Thing. [...] [...] Not the Main Thing. [...]

]]> By: Edith http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10521 Edith Wed, 30 Dec 2009 04:46:26 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10521 Very good...very well said. Thank you, Ashleigh. Sometimes...God will bring us to that very place of solitude in order to reveal His majesty- which eclipses anything else our feeble minds ever dared to conceive. Very good…very well said. Thank you, Ashleigh. Sometimes…God will bring us to that very place of solitude in order to reveal His majesty- which eclipses anything else our feeble minds ever dared to conceive.

]]> By: From the Little Pink House | Feelin’ Feminine http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10507 From the Little Pink House | Feelin’ Feminine Sat, 26 Dec 2009 19:36:02 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10507 [...] Marriage is Not Your Highest Calling Part I and Part II (by Ashleigh) [...] [...] Marriage is Not Your Highest Calling Part I and Part II (by Ashleigh) [...]

]]> By: Lucy http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10377 Lucy Wed, 18 Nov 2009 10:41:53 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10377 Hi, This is a absolutely great site to be encouraged by, I have been in a very difficult time and I needed to be still and listen to what God had been wanting me to see, I have a wide circle of friends most are married, some are single parents and most of them has much more experience than myself and I have been talked into exchange of telephone numbers with the eligible male friends which didnt work out at all. I have been spending time with people that are in a completely different spaces than me and I have allowed their way of thinking to somewhat influence me and so easily we could wrap that with what we think God wants. It's really difficult to be in a place where God wants you alone, with no friends and with no pure minded christian guy friends to hang out with, as I am typing I think that He has just answered me by saying that I have allowed different influences to strip me from my real desire, I have always held onto becoming the whole person I would like to meet someday and I have been robbed by thinking that marriage is the end of all. I am coming to the place where I enjoyed being before this confusion that i allowed but now i am getting to a place where i soaking in God whole heartedly, I believe that when Your complete focus is on what He wants, your wants suddenly rushes out by the door. I am excited for my shift in my mindset, It wont be easy but with God being my all, I am going through this and I know that His peace will not let me down because my my my I no longer want to live a life where i am not fruitful because of me wanting what i think is good. I wish to keep in touch with females of the same mindset. I enjoy wise counsel and i love when people are prosperous because of the principles they have applied which is God's word. Best Regards, Lucy - SA Hi,

This is a absolutely great site to be encouraged by, I have been in a very difficult time and I needed to be still and listen to what God had been wanting me to see, I have a wide circle of friends most are married, some are single parents and most of them has much more experience than myself and I have been talked into exchange of telephone numbers with the eligible male friends which didnt work out at all. I have been spending time with people that are in a completely different spaces than me and I have allowed their way of thinking to somewhat influence me and so easily we could wrap that with what we think God wants. It’s really difficult to be in a place where God wants you alone, with no friends and with no pure minded christian guy friends to hang out with, as I am typing I think that He has just answered me by saying that I have allowed different influences to strip me from my real desire, I have always held onto becoming the whole person I would like to meet someday and I have been robbed by thinking that marriage is the end of all.

I am coming to the place where I enjoyed being before this confusion that i allowed but now i am getting to a place where i soaking in God whole heartedly, I believe that when Your complete focus is on what He wants, your wants suddenly rushes out by the door.

I am excited for my shift in my mindset, It wont be easy but with God being my all, I am going through this and I know that His peace will not let me down because my my my I no longer want to live a life where i am not fruitful because of me wanting what i think is good.

I wish to keep in touch with females of the same mindset. I enjoy wise counsel and i love when people are prosperous because of the principles they have applied which is God’s word.

Best Regards,

Lucy – SA

]]> By: Bernice http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10184 Bernice Thu, 22 Oct 2009 22:03:02 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10184 This post is truly encouraging. Thanks Keep up the good work. This post is truly encouraging. Thanks
Keep up the good work.

]]> By: Written by You–Posts and Carnivals | Young Ladies Christian Fellowship http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10164 Written by You–Posts and Carnivals | Young Ladies Christian Fellowship Wed, 21 Oct 2009 06:57:20 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10164 [...] doing with your single years. We’d like to catch a glimpse of your heart. We recently talked about making our lives count for Christ, no matter our marital status, and we’d like to hear more about how you are accomplishing [...] [...] doing with your single years. We’d like to catch a glimpse of your heart. We recently talked about making our lives count for Christ, no matter our marital status, and we’d like to hear more about how you are accomplishing [...]

]]> By: åslaug http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10110 åslaug Thu, 08 Oct 2009 17:01:59 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10110 You guys should really read the article "completely single" on pearlsanddiamonds.wordpress.com, it runs along the same lines and is so encouraging =) You guys should really read the article “completely single” on

pearlsanddiamonds.wordpress.com,

it runs along the same lines and is so encouraging =)

]]> By: Renee http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10078 Renee Thu, 01 Oct 2009 17:45:33 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10078 Excellent article! If we are not content now, serving God and loving Him, we will not be content when we are married. No man can fill our hearts. We have to be content in God and a husband will be something wonderful, but not the thing that will fill our hearts. God has a wonderful plan for all of our lives, and a husband is just one part of that! God is the only thing that will fill our hearts with contentment. Thanks for writing these articles. This is a topic I have been thinking a lot about lately. Excellent article! If we are not content now, serving God and loving Him, we will not be content when we are married. No man can fill our hearts. We have to be content in God and a husband will be something wonderful, but not the thing that will fill our hearts. God has a wonderful plan for all of our lives, and a husband is just one part of that! God is the only thing that will fill our hearts with contentment.

Thanks for writing these articles. This is a topic I have been thinking a lot about lately.

]]> By: Agnes http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10059 Agnes Wed, 30 Sep 2009 15:59:35 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10059 Thanks Sarah Ann, I will do! :) Thanks Sarah Ann, I will do! :)

]]> By: Elizabeth J. http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10053 Elizabeth J. Tue, 29 Sep 2009 22:52:27 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10053 Thank you so very much for writing this, I'm looking forward to part two. I am 17 years old and do believe that being a wife and homemaking certainly is a noble calling (which I hope to one day be) but God has lead me to further my education outside the home while still having learned all the skills that are necessary to make a godly home. Thank you so very much for writing this, I’m looking forward to part two. I am 17 years old and do believe that being a wife and homemaking certainly is a noble calling (which I hope to one day be) but God has lead me to further my education outside the home while still having learned all the skills that are necessary to make a godly home.

]]> By: Sarah Ann http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10052 Sarah Ann Tue, 29 Sep 2009 21:42:30 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10052 Agnes, thank you for sharing that!!! You should check out www.ladies-in-waiting.net. It is a site for where you can be encouraged by other single Christian ladies and be an encouragement to them too! Agnes, thank you for sharing that!!! You should check out http://www.ladies-in-waiting.net. It is a site for where you can be encouraged by other single Christian ladies and be an encouragement to them too!

]]> By: Bridgette http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10051 Bridgette Tue, 29 Sep 2009 20:02:01 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10051 Ashleigh, thank you! This article was so encouraging to read. It makes me want to stand on a chair, punch my fist in the air, and shout, "Amen!" Many of my friends (men and women) are in this place of waiting, as am I. But whether the desire to marry is fulfilled or not, it is so good to know our worth, our purpose, and our enjoyment of life depends on something else entirely separate from our circumstances, something transcendent. Ashleigh, thank you! This article was so encouraging to read. It makes me want to stand on a chair, punch my fist in the air, and shout, “Amen!” Many of my friends (men and women) are in this place of waiting, as am I. But whether the desire to marry is fulfilled or not, it is so good to know our worth, our purpose, and our enjoyment of life depends on something else entirely separate from our circumstances, something transcendent.

]]> By: Samantha R http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10050 Samantha R Tue, 29 Sep 2009 19:56:24 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10050 Amen and Amen!! :) Marriage is a means not an end... Your really wrote a well-balanced article here and I wanted to thank you for sharing with us! In the past, I've always told myself that I couldn't do this or that because it wasn't necessarily something that would better me as a future homemaker... and now, it seems God is "pushing" me towards pursuing I would have never thought of pursuing before... So, I am seeking Him and letting Him lead. And I have peace about it! :) I am looking forward to Part 2! Amen and Amen!! :)
Marriage is a means not an end…
Your really wrote a well-balanced article here and I wanted to thank you for sharing with us!
In the past, I’ve always told myself that I couldn’t do this or that because it wasn’t necessarily something that would better me as a future homemaker… and now, it seems God is “pushing” me towards pursuing I would have never thought of pursuing before…
So, I am seeking Him and letting Him lead. And I have peace about it! :)

I am looking forward to Part 2!

]]> By: Abbie http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10049 Abbie Tue, 29 Sep 2009 12:44:26 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10049 Wow, thank you so much for this article. I agree comletely! There's such a fine line to walk between preparing yourself for marriage someday, but not hanging all your hopes on it. Our focus is to be on the Lord! This is a very balanced viewpoint. (You don't run across many of those!) Like Abigail, I've been wanting - and trying! - to write something like this lately, but I could not have done it so beautifully. Thank you again. Wow, thank you so much for this article. I agree comletely! There’s such a fine line to walk between preparing yourself for marriage someday, but not hanging all your hopes on it. Our focus is to be on the Lord! This is a very balanced viewpoint. (You don’t run across many of those!)

Like Abigail, I’ve been wanting – and trying! – to write something like this lately, but I could not have done it so beautifully. Thank you again.

]]> By: Diana http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10048 Diana Tue, 29 Sep 2009 06:47:41 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10048 "We’re living for our own pleasure–we believe we know what will make us happiest and most fulfilled in this life and so, as with someone wishing to enter any other field, we pursue nothing else." Thank you for writing this- The sentence I've quoted is something I am struggling with so much right now. It can be so hard to let go of my pride and what I think my life should be at this point and just place my trust in Christ. I know that this is a part of having true faith but lately I have had such a difficult time truly feeling at peace with my situation. Thanks again and I'm really looking forward to Part 2 “We’re living for our own pleasure–we believe we know what will make us happiest and most fulfilled in this life and so, as with someone wishing to enter any other field, we pursue nothing else.”

Thank you for writing this- The sentence I’ve quoted is something I am struggling with so much right now. It can be so hard to let go of my pride and what I think my life should be at this point and just place my trust in Christ. I know that this is a part of having true faith but lately I have had such a difficult time truly feeling at peace with my situation.

Thanks again and I’m really looking forward to Part 2

]]> By: Abigail http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10047 Abigail Tue, 29 Sep 2009 01:41:51 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10047 I have been wanting to write an article along these very lines recently, and was glad to see you put it into words so well. Beautifully stated - and so true! Thank you for sharing. :) I have been wanting to write an article along these very lines recently, and was glad to see you put it into words so well. Beautifully stated – and so true! Thank you for sharing. :)

]]> By: Women of Promise http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10046 Women of Promise Tue, 29 Sep 2009 00:50:26 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10046 excellent points. excellent points.

]]> By: Jaclynn http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10044 Jaclynn Mon, 28 Sep 2009 21:41:21 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10044 Thank you for the encouragement Ashleigh. It is easy to get discouraged when things don't turn out as we had planned or even dared to hope! And the waiting doesn't seem to get easier as we get older either. *chuckle* But I know He has bigger and better plans than even marriage for me! "But marriage is not the end goal of life." Funny, my dad basically said the same thing to me last year upon facing a very difficult decision. Thank you for the encouragement Ashleigh. It is easy to get discouraged when things don’t turn out as we had planned or even dared to hope! And the waiting doesn’t seem to get easier as we get older either. *chuckle*
But I know He has bigger and better plans than even marriage for me!
“But marriage is not the end goal of life.” Funny, my dad basically said the same thing to me last year upon facing a very difficult decision.

]]> By: Kiersti http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10043 Kiersti Mon, 28 Sep 2009 20:50:01 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10043 Good words to hear...I look forward to Part 2. :) Good words to hear…I look forward to Part 2. :)

]]> By: Katy http://ylcf.org/2009/09/marriage-is-not-my-highest-calling/comment-page-1/#comment-10042 Katy Mon, 28 Sep 2009 15:14:59 +0000 http://ylcf.org/?p=3934#comment-10042 Thank you so much for sharing this I can hardly wait for part 2! I was one of the people that was certain I would be married at 18 and pregant at 19 :) Well...I am 19 and neither of those have come to pass and there really is not any prospects right now. Until a few weeks ago I had allowed discontentment to creep into my heart and instead of living a victorious single life for my Lord I was living a mediocre one that was causing alot of compromise. So I CHOSE to not live like that anymore and asked Him to take away the discontentment and all the problems it was causeing and replace it with a spirit of complete surrender and trust in the fact that HE IS IN CONTROL! I was content to just wait around but now...I really believe that the Lord has called me to minister to others via missions. I am going to school for nursing. I am planning a short terms mission trip. I am ministering to other single girls. Does this mean that I am not lonely sometimes...yeah I am but...those are the times that I just have to surrender it once again to my Lord trusting in His timing and CHOOSE to live each day faithfully fullfilling the callings He has for my life right now as a single girl...He is so worthy and so good! :) Wow that was a paragragh! loL :) Thanks again for posting this...it was a blessing to me! Thank you so much for sharing this I can hardly wait for part 2! I was one of the people that was certain I would be married at 18 and pregant at 19 :) Well…I am 19 and neither of those have come to pass and there really is not any prospects right now. Until a few weeks ago I had allowed discontentment to creep into my heart and instead of living a victorious single life for my Lord I was living a mediocre one that was causing alot of compromise. So I CHOSE to not live like that anymore and asked Him to take away the discontentment and all the problems it was causeing and replace it with a spirit of complete surrender and trust in the fact that HE IS IN CONTROL! I was content to just wait around but now…I really believe that the Lord has called me to minister to others via missions. I am going to school for nursing. I am planning a short terms mission trip. I am ministering to other single girls. Does this mean that I am not lonely sometimes…yeah I am but…those are the times that I just have to surrender it once again to my Lord trusting in His timing and CHOOSE to live each day faithfully fullfilling the callings He has for my life right now as a single girl…He is so worthy and so good! :) Wow that was a paragragh! loL :)
Thanks again for posting this…it was a blessing to me!

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