Comments on: Sand Castles http://ylcf.org/2008/05/sand-castles/ YLCF Tue, 22 May 2012 04:16:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Candace http://ylcf.org/2008/05/sand-castles/#comment-6389 Candace Sun, 07 Sep 2008 20:58:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2008/05/sand-castles/#comment-6389 Dear beautiful ladies whose hope is in the Lord, and whose God-given deams have not yet come to pass,<br/>I would like to encourage you to not grow weary in doing good. I am 28, been on one date, never been kissed, have vowed to save that gift for the man God has hand-picked for me. Sometimes, my flesh can't help but wonder WHERE ON EARTH IS HE?! And why is it taking so long?! But God's grace is sufficient, and He comforts me with His Word. He has a plan for each of you. He is WITH you. He has called Himself "HUSBAND" to you. He has NOT forgotten you!! I offer a free magazine to ladies just like you who need encouragement as you wait on the Lord to bring about His perfect will in His perfect time. You can learn more about it on the blog; www.watchingforthemorning.org/blog <br/>May Jesus renew your strength as you wait on Him with all your heart!<br/>Love,<br/>Candace :) Dear beautiful ladies whose hope is in the Lord, and whose God-given deams have not yet come to pass,
I would like to encourage you to not grow weary in doing good. I am 28, been on one date, never been kissed, have vowed to save that gift for the man God has hand-picked for me. Sometimes, my flesh can’t help but wonder WHERE ON EARTH IS HE?! And why is it taking so long?! But God’s grace is sufficient, and He comforts me with His Word. He has a plan for each of you. He is WITH you. He has called Himself “HUSBAND” to you. He has NOT forgotten you!! I offer a free magazine to ladies just like you who need encouragement as you wait on the Lord to bring about His perfect will in His perfect time. You can learn more about it on the blog; http://www.watchingforthemorning.org/blog
May Jesus renew your strength as you wait on Him with all your heart!
Love,
Candace :)

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2008/05/sand-castles/#comment-5896 Anonymous Fri, 30 May 2008 16:45:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2008/05/sand-castles/#comment-5896 I am 22 and single (and waiting). While I FULLY agree that we single women must wait and submit to God's will and timing patiently, I sense that something is missing from the view expressed by many of these commenters. I believe that each woman today was created to be a helpmeet to a man, just as Eve, the first woman (Gen 2). I also believe that marriage should be the default (in God's timing) for every woman, given 1. God's command to be fruitful and multiply (Gen. 1) and 2. the desire for intimacy/battle against lust that God has created in us, which Paul counsels us to respond to by getting married (I Cor. 7, first few verses [I think]). (There are women to whom God gives the gift of celibacy, but I believe they are a minority). So, most of us can say with faith and certainty that God wants us to marry someday. So what are you doing about it? What man in your life (father, brother) might you practice being a helpmeet to? (You know, they might know more godly men than you do, because [as I have seen] we tend to draw most of our friends from our own gender).<br/>That's all the time I have now, but I hope to provoke some good thoughts.<br/><br/>TJ I am 22 and single (and waiting). While I FULLY agree that we single women must wait and submit to God’s will and timing patiently, I sense that something is missing from the view expressed by many of these commenters. I believe that each woman today was created to be a helpmeet to a man, just as Eve, the first woman (Gen 2). I also believe that marriage should be the default (in God’s timing) for every woman, given 1. God’s command to be fruitful and multiply (Gen. 1) and 2. the desire for intimacy/battle against lust that God has created in us, which Paul counsels us to respond to by getting married (I Cor. 7, first few verses [I think]). (There are women to whom God gives the gift of celibacy, but I believe they are a minority). So, most of us can say with faith and certainty that God wants us to marry someday. So what are you doing about it? What man in your life (father, brother) might you practice being a helpmeet to? (You know, they might know more godly men than you do, because [as I have seen] we tend to draw most of our friends from our own gender).
That’s all the time I have now, but I hope to provoke some good thoughts.

TJ

]]> By: Roxi http://ylcf.org/2008/05/sand-castles/#comment-5891 Roxi Thu, 29 May 2008 14:43:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2008/05/sand-castles/#comment-5891 Some additional thoughts about the topic and what I meant previously:<br/>1. the motivation of our heart - completely surrender to God's will. I agree completely with Jane that said<br/>“HE wants that perfect partner for me to make not only myself happy but the man and God happy.<br/>Not for my own ego, but to bring glory to God with that sanctified relationship--marriage.”<br/>Yes, every godly woman wants her marriage to be for the glory of God. <br/>Still, let’s check our heart deep, deep inside: If our heart is really surrendered only to that, then why are we frustrated, depressed, jealous, sad because for this years, God seems to say that His glory is best revealed in us by our godly singleness ??? A truly surrendered heart would say: I am thrilled that I bring You glory through my life of godly unmarried lady; I could give You glory in a godly marriage too, I could be part of a wonderful, pale image of the love between You and Your Church. But that would be an extra, wonderful bonus to my already very happy life with You !<br/>2. are we really “ready” for marriage? Do we really know what it is to love people, to sacrifice oneself, self-denial, agape-love, unconditional commitment, support, encouragement, forgiveness, patience etc ? Are we developing all of this in our relationship with God and family, brothers and sisters in Church, friends, colleagues? If not, is is very unlikely to be able to have this kind of character with your mate. If we are, then these virtues already are building true joy and fulfillment in our lives – marriage only will amplify those things.<br/>3. why do we want to get married? To be the living image of love between Christ and the Church for the world? To grow in holiness and character and divine wisdom like in no other most intimate human relationship? To love and serve your mate, to help and support him, and fulfill together the specific plan of God for your family into this world? Or to be like everyone else who raised a family, not to remain single, fear of the future, need to be loved, appreciated…?<br/><br/>I think the answers to these questions will influence a lot our future – as married or unmarried godly women. <br/><br/>May God work in us, in our heart and character, and prepare each one of us for the plan and the future that He has in mind, which is the most glorifying for Him ! Amen !!! Some additional thoughts about the topic and what I meant previously:
1. the motivation of our heart – completely surrender to God’s will. I agree completely with Jane that said
“HE wants that perfect partner for me to make not only myself happy but the man and God happy.
Not for my own ego, but to bring glory to God with that sanctified relationship–marriage.”
Yes, every godly woman wants her marriage to be for the glory of God.
Still, let’s check our heart deep, deep inside: If our heart is really surrendered only to that, then why are we frustrated, depressed, jealous, sad because for this years, God seems to say that His glory is best revealed in us by our godly singleness ??? A truly surrendered heart would say: I am thrilled that I bring You glory through my life of godly unmarried lady; I could give You glory in a godly marriage too, I could be part of a wonderful, pale image of the love between You and Your Church. But that would be an extra, wonderful bonus to my already very happy life with You !
2. are we really “ready” for marriage? Do we really know what it is to love people, to sacrifice oneself, self-denial, agape-love, unconditional commitment, support, encouragement, forgiveness, patience etc ? Are we developing all of this in our relationship with God and family, brothers and sisters in Church, friends, colleagues? If not, is is very unlikely to be able to have this kind of character with your mate. If we are, then these virtues already are building true joy and fulfillment in our lives – marriage only will amplify those things.
3. why do we want to get married? To be the living image of love between Christ and the Church for the world? To grow in holiness and character and divine wisdom like in no other most intimate human relationship? To love and serve your mate, to help and support him, and fulfill together the specific plan of God for your family into this world? Or to be like everyone else who raised a family, not to remain single, fear of the future, need to be loved, appreciated…?

I think the answers to these questions will influence a lot our future – as married or unmarried godly women.

May God work in us, in our heart and character, and prepare each one of us for the plan and the future that He has in mind, which is the most glorifying for Him ! Amen !!!

]]> By: Mary Beth Jones http://ylcf.org/2008/05/sand-castles/#comment-5888 Mary Beth Jones Thu, 29 May 2008 02:16:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2008/05/sand-castles/#comment-5888 This article resonates with me. I am 32 and "never been kissed," never dated, or been in love. I have never "seen myself" with any particular guy. I have been solitary, along with my sisters, in our pursuit of holiness and loveliness that is altogether lost in our society.<br/><br/>Let us all have hope and not be weary in our well doing!!! My older sister Cori is marrying her sweetheart Brian next Saturday. They have known each other a year now; he is a local boy, born and raised right down the road from us. Their paths crossed vaguely several times over the last 15 years, but they did not recognize one another until they were matched by a modern-day matchmaker. They are so very happy. Cori is 37.<br/><br/>So, don't give up. Keep your life busy in work and ministry to others. This too shall pass, all in God's good time, even though we may not understand or agree with it! :) This article resonates with me. I am 32 and “never been kissed,” never dated, or been in love. I have never “seen myself” with any particular guy. I have been solitary, along with my sisters, in our pursuit of holiness and loveliness that is altogether lost in our society.

Let us all have hope and not be weary in our well doing!!! My older sister Cori is marrying her sweetheart Brian next Saturday. They have known each other a year now; he is a local boy, born and raised right down the road from us. Their paths crossed vaguely several times over the last 15 years, but they did not recognize one another until they were matched by a modern-day matchmaker. They are so very happy. Cori is 37.

So, don’t give up. Keep your life busy in work and ministry to others. This too shall pass, all in God’s good time, even though we may not understand or agree with it! :)

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2008/05/sand-castles/#comment-5887 Anonymous Wed, 28 May 2008 19:44:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2008/05/sand-castles/#comment-5887 A valuable lesson that I have learned over the years(and still keep reminding myself of) is that you can't be content somewhere else until you are content where you are. We are all humans that are sinful and live in a sinful world! We all have desires for things that we cannot have! Did you know that the "Perfect church" was closed due to a lack of members? :) But if we would only delight ourselves in the Lord, His will would become our will and life will become so much more enjoyable! <br/><br/>It is very hard to die to ourselves and our desires. (believe me I know!) But it is so worth it! Look for the joys in life, and count your blessings! God has already given us SO much!May God bless you with His peace as you remember that He loves you more than any earthly man ever could! A valuable lesson that I have learned over the years(and still keep reminding myself of) is that you can’t be content somewhere else until you are content where you are. We are all humans that are sinful and live in a sinful world! We all have desires for things that we cannot have! Did you know that the “Perfect church” was closed due to a lack of members? :) But if we would only delight ourselves in the Lord, His will would become our will and life will become so much more enjoyable!

It is very hard to die to ourselves and our desires. (believe me I know!) But it is so worth it! Look for the joys in life, and count your blessings! God has already given us SO much!May God bless you with His peace as you remember that He loves you more than any earthly man ever could!

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