Comments on: The Foundation of a Happy Marriage http://ylcf.org/2007/07/foundation-of-happy-marriage/ YLCF Wed, 08 Feb 2012 19:52:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: The Foundation of a Happy Marriage | Young Ladies Christian Fellowship http://ylcf.org/2007/07/foundation-of-happy-marriage/#comment-11964 The Foundation of a Happy Marriage | Young Ladies Christian Fellowship Mon, 16 Aug 2010 14:05:11 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2007/07/the-foundation-of-a-happy-marriage/#comment-11964 [...] read original comments here [...] [...] read original comments here [...]

]]> By: The Beauty of Separation | Young Ladies Christian Fellowship http://ylcf.org/2007/07/foundation-of-happy-marriage/#comment-11394 The Beauty of Separation | Young Ladies Christian Fellowship Mon, 17 May 2010 15:06:11 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2007/07/the-foundation-of-a-happy-marriage/#comment-11394 [...] of married life, we know it was a really, really good thing.  Our long-distance relationship gave our marriage a foundation of friendship and communication that could not be easily achieved any other way.  The time and [...] [...] of married life, we know it was a really, really good thing.  Our long-distance relationship gave our marriage a foundation of friendship and communication that could not be easily achieved any other way.  The time and [...]

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2007/07/foundation-of-happy-marriage/#comment-3948 Anonymous Fri, 27 Jul 2007 18:53:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2007/07/the-foundation-of-a-happy-marriage/#comment-3948 Agreed, me and my beloved have been 4 years and going strong. He will be teaching english in South Korea for the next year. We both trust that God's will be done :) Agreed, me and my beloved have been 4 years and going strong. He will be teaching english in South Korea for the next year. We both trust that God’s will be done :)

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2007/07/foundation-of-happy-marriage/#comment-3947 Anonymous Fri, 27 Jul 2007 18:31:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2007/07/the-foundation-of-a-happy-marriage/#comment-3947 i've read this article about five times already since it was posted..... i had just talked with my dear friend a few nights ago about impatience and self-control and resentment. when i read this for the first time, i immediately thought, "oh, i should send this to her and tell her how convicting and true it is!" but then i forgot and never did. it wasn't but a day later that she sent me the link and said she'd thought of me when reading it!!! <br/><br/>i look forward to realizing the treasure that i gained through this time of in-between some day. thank you for the blessing! i’ve read this article about five times already since it was posted….. i had just talked with my dear friend a few nights ago about impatience and self-control and resentment. when i read this for the first time, i immediately thought, “oh, i should send this to her and tell her how convicting and true it is!” but then i forgot and never did. it wasn’t but a day later that she sent me the link and said she’d thought of me when reading it!!!

i look forward to realizing the treasure that i gained through this time of in-between some day. thank you for the blessing!

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2007/07/foundation-of-happy-marriage/#comment-3946 Anonymous Fri, 27 Jul 2007 14:36:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2007/07/the-foundation-of-a-happy-marriage/#comment-3946 Gretchen, that is exactly what God wanted me to read this morning. Thank you for the encouragement and conviction! My courtive and I are going to be apart for a year until he finishes his last year of college (I graduated a year ahead of him) with only a few visits in between, and this is definitely an area that I struggle in. Thank you, thank you, for refocusing my perspective! Gretchen, that is exactly what God wanted me to read this morning. Thank you for the encouragement and conviction! My courtive and I are going to be apart for a year until he finishes his last year of college (I graduated a year ahead of him) with only a few visits in between, and this is definitely an area that I struggle in. Thank you, thank you, for refocusing my perspective!

]]> By: faithfully_waiting http://ylcf.org/2007/07/foundation-of-happy-marriage/#comment-3945 faithfully_waiting Fri, 27 Jul 2007 13:11:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2007/07/the-foundation-of-a-happy-marriage/#comment-3945 This series regarding Building Blocks for a Happy Marriage has been enjoyable to read (even if the preface was not posted in order) ;). When I read this post, I couldn't help but share Maureen's sentiment, although I'm nearing 27 years of age! I had to remind myself that this series was geared specifically toward those who were in the steps closer to marriage (i.e. courtship or engagement) and that they weren't necessarily for a general audience (which would include ladies such as myself and Maureen who have no 'husband' in sight). <br/><br/>Overall, I find the principles in these articles to be helpful and I believe we can apply them to our hearts and minds today, even if we have no outlet for true practice. If we think along the lines of "how could I love and serve my husband if God's will allows me to be a bride?", we will be more equipped as a loving wife than if we only think of our own selves and personal endeavors in this current season.<br/><br/>However, I must add that it is not healthy to spend *too* much time thinking of a possible future season of marriage. Doing so could foster discontentment or distraction from our role in maidenhood. <br/><br/>The majority of YLCF writers have been getting married or preparing to be a bride, so this is likely why there have been more posts about the topic of marriage lately. :) We look forward to future articles that may relate to faithfulness in the season prior to courtship. (Maybe from Chantel?) ;) <br/><br/>Gretchen & Natalie ~ Thank you for your efforts in keeping up with this site and continuing to post even though your main focus has been elsewhere. I hope I can speak for all your readers in saying that we have enjoyed learning how you transition from one stage of life to the next, sharing in your joys and hardships and discovering with you the trials that courtship and marriage may bring. <br/><br/>May the LORD's blessings continue to shine upon you!<br/><br/>~A fellow laborer in the Lord's Vineyard, Jenna This series regarding Building Blocks for a Happy Marriage has been enjoyable to read (even if the preface was not posted in order) ;) . When I read this post, I couldn’t help but share Maureen’s sentiment, although I’m nearing 27 years of age! I had to remind myself that this series was geared specifically toward those who were in the steps closer to marriage (i.e. courtship or engagement) and that they weren’t necessarily for a general audience (which would include ladies such as myself and Maureen who have no ‘husband’ in sight).

Overall, I find the principles in these articles to be helpful and I believe we can apply them to our hearts and minds today, even if we have no outlet for true practice. If we think along the lines of “how could I love and serve my husband if God’s will allows me to be a bride?”, we will be more equipped as a loving wife than if we only think of our own selves and personal endeavors in this current season.

However, I must add that it is not healthy to spend *too* much time thinking of a possible future season of marriage. Doing so could foster discontentment or distraction from our role in maidenhood.

The majority of YLCF writers have been getting married or preparing to be a bride, so this is likely why there have been more posts about the topic of marriage lately. :) We look forward to future articles that may relate to faithfulness in the season prior to courtship. (Maybe from Chantel?) ;)

Gretchen & Natalie ~ Thank you for your efforts in keeping up with this site and continuing to post even though your main focus has been elsewhere. I hope I can speak for all your readers in saying that we have enjoyed learning how you transition from one stage of life to the next, sharing in your joys and hardships and discovering with you the trials that courtship and marriage may bring.

May the LORD’s blessings continue to shine upon you!

~A fellow laborer in the Lord’s Vineyard, Jenna

]]> By: LadyNicole http://ylcf.org/2007/07/foundation-of-happy-marriage/#comment-3944 LadyNicole Thu, 26 Jul 2007 22:51:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2007/07/the-foundation-of-a-happy-marriage/#comment-3944 Gretchen,<br/><br/>I so appreciated this post. Until this last year, I just sort of assumed that I would meet "the right one", and it would be only a matter of a few months until the wedding. It surprised me that it could happen completely outside of my own timing! But I guess God wouldn't have much of a chance to teach me patience my way, would He?:-)<br/>~Nicole Marie Gretchen,

I so appreciated this post. Until this last year, I just sort of assumed that I would meet “the right one”, and it would be only a matter of a few months until the wedding. It surprised me that it could happen completely outside of my own timing! But I guess God wouldn’t have much of a chance to teach me patience my way, would He?:-)
~Nicole Marie

]]> By: Liz http://ylcf.org/2007/07/foundation-of-happy-marriage/#comment-3943 Liz Thu, 26 Jul 2007 22:32:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2007/07/the-foundation-of-a-happy-marriage/#comment-3943 Hey, it's good to know Gretchen has some faults too!<br/>But seriously....there have been times even in my short marriage where I have struggled, especially being far away from any friends to vent at! Sometimes I have not even wanted to be more godly, let alone tried and prayed for it to be so. So thank you for a little word of encouragement. Hey, it’s good to know Gretchen has some faults too!
But seriously….there have been times even in my short marriage where I have struggled, especially being far away from any friends to vent at! Sometimes I have not even wanted to be more godly, let alone tried and prayed for it to be so. So thank you for a little word of encouragement.

]]> By: Laura Stanberry http://ylcf.org/2007/07/foundation-of-happy-marriage/#comment-3942 Laura Stanberry Thu, 26 Jul 2007 21:51:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2007/07/the-foundation-of-a-happy-marriage/#comment-3942 Amen,<br/> By the time my husband and I were married our courtship had been a long one compared to most. 4 years. I remember how hard especially the last year was. I began to dread going to a wedding because I knew I would long all the more for my own. But now after over a year of marriage I can say it was worth the wait. And oh what joy it is to share all that is me with all that is Him, the Good the Bad and let;s face it even the ugly! Amen,
By the time my husband and I were married our courtship had been a long one compared to most. 4 years. I remember how hard especially the last year was. I began to dread going to a wedding because I knew I would long all the more for my own. But now after over a year of marriage I can say it was worth the wait. And oh what joy it is to share all that is me with all that is Him, the Good the Bad and let;s face it even the ugly!

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2007/07/foundation-of-happy-marriage/#comment-3941 Anonymous Thu, 26 Jul 2007 21:07:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2007/07/the-foundation-of-a-happy-marriage/#comment-3941 Natalie thank you thank you so much for posting Gretchen's post...it was timely indeed, gretchen talks of many bumps and, twists and turns and of many long lonely nights.....i can relate so well, especially with the time out (break) that i'm going through with my fiance...IF in the end run i become his wife, It would have been so worth it.<br/>So yes Gretchen dear i can relate so well...:))<br/>Thank you for such an encouraging post, it really helped me..now i gotta read the relating posts....all of them :)))<br/><br/><br/>Thanks again Gretchen, your marriage inspires me in my walk with my fiance and with God.<br/><br/>Thank you!!<br/><br/>Have a blessed and wonderful day!<br/><br/>May God Bless You and keep you always!<br/><br/>PTL (Praise the Lord)<br/><br/>In Him, Jane. Natalie thank you thank you so much for posting Gretchen’s post…it was timely indeed, gretchen talks of many bumps and, twists and turns and of many long lonely nights…..i can relate so well, especially with the time out (break) that i’m going through with my fiance…IF in the end run i become his wife, It would have been so worth it.
So yes Gretchen dear i can relate so well…:))
Thank you for such an encouraging post, it really helped me..now i gotta read the relating posts….all of them :) ))

Thanks again Gretchen, your marriage inspires me in my walk with my fiance and with God.

Thank you!!

Have a blessed and wonderful day!

May God Bless You and keep you always!

PTL (Praise the Lord)

In Him, Jane.

]]> By: Monica http://ylcf.org/2007/07/foundation-of-happy-marriage/#comment-3937 Monica Thu, 26 Jul 2007 12:25:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2007/07/the-foundation-of-a-happy-marriage/#comment-3937 I love the picture accompanying this post. I love the picture accompanying this post.

]]> By: MaureenE http://ylcf.org/2007/07/foundation-of-happy-marriage/#comment-3936 MaureenE Thu, 26 Jul 2007 03:17:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2007/07/the-foundation-of-a-happy-marriage/#comment-3936 Gretchen, this is a wonderful post and a great reminder. A question though. What about those of us who aren't even that far? That is, those of us who aren't even "my friend" to someone? At the moment it feels in many ways (not just relationship-wise) like I'm waiting for my life to begin. Gretchen, this is a wonderful post and a great reminder. A question though. What about those of us who aren’t even that far? That is, those of us who aren’t even “my friend” to someone? At the moment it feels in many ways (not just relationship-wise) like I’m waiting for my life to begin.

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