Comments on: Ideals and Expectations Part Two http://ylcf.org/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/ YLCF Wed, 08 Feb 2012 19:52:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ideals and Expectations, Part Two | Young Ladies Christian Fellowship http://ylcf.org/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-11978 Ideals and Expectations, Part Two | Young Ladies Christian Fellowship Thu, 19 Aug 2010 12:48:15 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-11978 [...] read original comments here [...] [...] read original comments here [...]

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2435 Anonymous Mon, 07 Aug 2006 17:10:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2435 Excellent post, Lanier. Very refreshing to hear such truth...<br/><br/>-Kari Excellent post, Lanier. Very refreshing to hear such truth…

-Kari

]]> By: Mia http://ylcf.org/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2432 Mia Sun, 06 Aug 2006 20:29:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2432 Lanier, thank you so much for sharing your God-given gift of writing with us! Is is always such a blessing to read, and this post was no different! Thank you for reminding me of the difference between ideals and expectation - so good! Lanier, thank you so much for sharing your God-given gift of writing with us! Is is always such a blessing to read, and this post was no different! Thank you for reminding me of the difference between ideals and expectation – so good!

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2431 Anonymous Sun, 06 Aug 2006 03:25:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2431 That is so true! And it is amazing how the Lord works. I had an ideal picture of the sort of guy I wanted to marry...looked around, didn't see anyone like him, and decided I just wouldn't ever get married. Then God gave me a vision for home, and I came to the place where I knew if God brought his man into my life, even if he wasn't my ideal, it would be well.<br/><br/>Guess what? God has brought a wonderful man into my life. He has such a heart for the Lord. But - *gasp* - I absolutely couldn't stand him when I first met him! He didn't seem to be my "type" at all...but after I got to know him better, all that changed. It wasn't "Ooo, I like this guy! *squeal*" It was, "Wow...I really respect this guy. Whoa...I think I could follow him. Oh dear..." And now, amazingly, I have found he is more like my ideal than I would have ever thought possible. God is good - ALL THE TIME. That is so true! And it is amazing how the Lord works. I had an ideal picture of the sort of guy I wanted to marry…looked around, didn’t see anyone like him, and decided I just wouldn’t ever get married. Then God gave me a vision for home, and I came to the place where I knew if God brought his man into my life, even if he wasn’t my ideal, it would be well.

Guess what? God has brought a wonderful man into my life. He has such a heart for the Lord. But – *gasp* – I absolutely couldn’t stand him when I first met him! He didn’t seem to be my “type” at all…but after I got to know him better, all that changed. It wasn’t “Ooo, I like this guy! *squeal*” It was, “Wow…I really respect this guy. Whoa…I think I could follow him. Oh dear…” And now, amazingly, I have found he is more like my ideal than I would have ever thought possible. God is good – ALL THE TIME.

]]> By: Yael http://ylcf.org/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2430 Yael Sun, 06 Aug 2006 01:56:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2430 Wow!!!!!! :) Thank you so much for that awesome post! <br/>Blessings and Shalom! Wow!!!!!! :) Thank you so much for that awesome post!
Blessings and Shalom!

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2429 Anonymous Sun, 06 Aug 2006 01:03:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2429 I was thoroughly blessed by both of your 'Ideals & Expectations' blogs Lanier! :) I can honestly say that I've thought alot about the specifics...what I think 'he' should wear, listen to, or watch...and I know that each of those things should be pleasing to the Lord no matter what, but there is a degree to which we can become too picky or demanding. That's what I'm learning. :) Thanks again...<br/>It was fun running into you and Philip this morning at breakfast! <br/>love, griffin I was thoroughly blessed by both of your ‘Ideals & Expectations’ blogs Lanier! :) I can honestly say that I’ve thought alot about the specifics…what I think ‘he’ should wear, listen to, or watch…and I know that each of those things should be pleasing to the Lord no matter what, but there is a degree to which we can become too picky or demanding. That’s what I’m learning. :) Thanks again…
It was fun running into you and Philip this morning at breakfast!
love, griffin

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2426 Anonymous Sat, 05 Aug 2006 01:02:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2426 What a beautiful post! One of the best posts I've ever read on here (and that's saying a lot, because there have been so many excellent posts on the ylcf:)because it's so encouraging, refreshing, and real. Not a lot is mentioned about the difference between preferences and ideals/standards. Thanks for sharing what God has revealed to you and what you've learned in your own life about this topic. I'm sure many others will be blessed from this post, as well.:)<br/><br/>-Whitney What a beautiful post! One of the best posts I’ve ever read on here (and that’s saying a lot, because there have been so many excellent posts on the ylcf:)because it’s so encouraging, refreshing, and real. Not a lot is mentioned about the difference between preferences and ideals/standards. Thanks for sharing what God has revealed to you and what you’ve learned in your own life about this topic. I’m sure many others will be blessed from this post, as well.:)

-Whitney

]]> By: ShelleyMariee http://ylcf.org/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2425 ShelleyMariee Sat, 05 Aug 2006 00:59:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2425 Thanks for the encouraging, honest post, Lanier! Thanks for the encouraging, honest post, Lanier!

]]> By: Andrea http://ylcf.org/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2424 Andrea Sat, 05 Aug 2006 00:34:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2424 Amen Lanier! <br/><br/>It wasn't until I told the Lord, "God, I'm so DONE with this dating/courting garbage! I'm tired, my heart hurts, and I obviously dont want what you want for me. I give up! I think that you want me to take a year off of dating to figure this out!" And that's when God laughed and said "oh yeah? Well, guess what! You're going to meet your mate!" And I did...it took almost a year of someone I felt was totally unworthy of me, didn't fulfill my expectations to win me over. <br/><br/>True, God planned and ordained love is definitely amazing :) <br/><br/>Peace, <br/>Andrea Amen Lanier!

It wasn’t until I told the Lord, “God, I’m so DONE with this dating/courting garbage! I’m tired, my heart hurts, and I obviously dont want what you want for me. I give up! I think that you want me to take a year off of dating to figure this out!” And that’s when God laughed and said “oh yeah? Well, guess what! You’re going to meet your mate!” And I did…it took almost a year of someone I felt was totally unworthy of me, didn’t fulfill my expectations to win me over.

True, God planned and ordained love is definitely amazing :)

Peace,
Andrea

]]> By: aussietigger1980 http://ylcf.org/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2422 aussietigger1980 Sat, 05 Aug 2006 00:01:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2422 Thanks, Lanier, for your thoughts. I agree that I find expectations and ideals very hard to separate, so I liked your assistance! I've never been a big list person of things I wanted in my future husband--particularly not on superficial/exterior things--but I have found it hard to work out which things are necessaries and which are optionals. :) Thanks, Lanier, for your thoughts. I agree that I find expectations and ideals very hard to separate, so I liked your assistance! I’ve never been a big list person of things I wanted in my future husband–particularly not on superficial/exterior things–but I have found it hard to work out which things are necessaries and which are optionals. :)

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2421 Anonymous Fri, 04 Aug 2006 22:52:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/08/ideals-and-expectations-part-two/#comment-2421 Hi Lanier:<br/><br/>I couldn't agree more...the man that the Lord gives us shouldn't be a part of specifics, yes important standards are very important, but they way they'll look or what movies they like or music really isn't going to matter when one is choosing a mate for a lifetime. I so often see marraiges shatter within 1 or 2 or 3 years all because they want to be loved but not to give love unselfishly.<br/>I met someone wonderful, i'm engaged to a wonderful man, and he didn't meet all my specifics, yet in every way he turned out much better than all my dreams. He was exactly what the Lord knew i needed in a mate, trustworthy, kind, sweet, intelligent, spiritual, grounded in Christ, funny and such a great fiance.<br/>Only the Lord knows what we truly need in a mate, and we shouldn't pass someone up just because they don't meet our specifics; keep your mind open and Trust God to bring you the ultimate perfect mate :)<br/><br/>I am so happy that i didn't let this one go....:)<br/>We do argue from time to time, but such is life and such life may be after marriage, but just remmber Let God be the one that picks you the best mate for you.<br/><br/>Only the Lord is the one fit to choose the one best for us!<br/>And it helps if parents approve :))<br/><br/>Ok that's enough for now!<br/>Sorry for such a long post, and whoever read this far, i thank you for reading all of it :)<br/><br/>Have a great day girls!<br/><br/>God Bless you all and may HE keep you safe!<br/><br/>Jane. Hi Lanier:

I couldn’t agree more…the man that the Lord gives us shouldn’t be a part of specifics, yes important standards are very important, but they way they’ll look or what movies they like or music really isn’t going to matter when one is choosing a mate for a lifetime. I so often see marraiges shatter within 1 or 2 or 3 years all because they want to be loved but not to give love unselfishly.
I met someone wonderful, i’m engaged to a wonderful man, and he didn’t meet all my specifics, yet in every way he turned out much better than all my dreams. He was exactly what the Lord knew i needed in a mate, trustworthy, kind, sweet, intelligent, spiritual, grounded in Christ, funny and such a great fiance.
Only the Lord knows what we truly need in a mate, and we shouldn’t pass someone up just because they don’t meet our specifics; keep your mind open and Trust God to bring you the ultimate perfect mate :)

I am so happy that i didn’t let this one go….:)
We do argue from time to time, but such is life and such life may be after marriage, but just remmber Let God be the one that picks you the best mate for you.

Only the Lord is the one fit to choose the one best for us!
And it helps if parents approve :) )

Ok that’s enough for now!
Sorry for such a long post, and whoever read this far, i thank you for reading all of it :)

Have a great day girls!

God Bless you all and may HE keep you safe!

Jane.

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