Comments on: The respect he desperately needs http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/ YLCF Wed, 08 Feb 2012 19:52:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: NH http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1492 NH Mon, 08 May 2006 18:31:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1492 Excellent post! Excellent post!

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1490 Anonymous Mon, 08 May 2006 17:51:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1490 Yup, I'm learing that respecting my guy means backing him up and cheering him on when he has to go through something tough or something he doesn't know quite how to handle, and letting him know that i'm praying for him. They need our support and respect so much. Yup, I’m learing that respecting my guy means backing him up and cheering him on when he has to go through something tough or something he doesn’t know quite how to handle, and letting him know that i’m praying for him. They need our support and respect so much.

]]> By: Rachael http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1489 Rachael Mon, 08 May 2006 17:00:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1489 Gretchen...what a lovely gift of writng that you have been given. This is one of your best posts in the past week or so. Even though your post doesnt nessaseraly apply to me yet (im not enganged or married..im only 16)it is really true what you say about the love and respect in a marriage. Im looking 4ward to lots more good posts like this in the run up to your wedding<br/><br/>Rachael - England. <br/><br/>P.S plz excuxe my spelling Gretchen…what a lovely gift of writng that you have been given. This is one of your best posts in the past week or so. Even though your post doesnt nessaseraly apply to me yet (im not enganged or married..im only 16)it is really true what you say about the love and respect in a marriage. Im looking 4ward to lots more good posts like this in the run up to your wedding

Rachael – England.

P.S plz excuxe my spelling

]]> By: Jessica http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1488 Jessica Mon, 08 May 2006 14:41:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1488 Thanks Gretchen, your post was really encouraging. Sometimes it boggles my mind that all my man needs from me is to just him in the same room...not even doing anything! (How contrary that is to my natural nature at times.) But I'm learning to take joy in serving him that way. Thanks Gretchen, your post was really encouraging. Sometimes it boggles my mind that all my man needs from me is to just him in the same room…not even doing anything! (How contrary that is to my natural nature at times.) But I’m learning to take joy in serving him that way.

]]> By: God's Girls Today http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1487 God's Girls Today Mon, 08 May 2006 14:27:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1487 Excellent post. There is a family I know that demonstrates beautifully the cycle of a woman respecting her husband flowing into the man loving his wife flowing into the woman respecting her husband... This woman is very vocal about her approval of her husband, and he demonstrates his love to her all the time. Thanks for sharing, Gretchen! Excellent post. There is a family I know that demonstrates beautifully the cycle of a woman respecting her husband flowing into the man loving his wife flowing into the woman respecting her husband… This woman is very vocal about her approval of her husband, and he demonstrates his love to her all the time. Thanks for sharing, Gretchen!

]]> By: God's Girls Today http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-7868 God's Girls Today Mon, 08 May 2006 14:27:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-7868 Excellent post. There is a family I know that demonstrates beautifully the cycle of a woman respecting her husband flowing into the man loving his wife flowing into the woman respecting her husband... This woman is very vocal about her approval of her husband, and he demonstrates his love to her all the time. Thanks for sharing, Gretchen! Excellent post. There is a family I know that demonstrates beautifully the cycle of a woman respecting her husband flowing into the man loving his wife flowing into the woman respecting her husband… This woman is very vocal about her approval of her husband, and he demonstrates his love to her all the time. Thanks for sharing, Gretchen!

]]> By: God's Girls Today http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-7018 God's Girls Today Mon, 08 May 2006 14:27:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-7018 Excellent post. There is a family I know that demonstrates beautifully the cycle of a woman respecting her husband flowing into the man loving his wife flowing into the woman respecting her husband... This woman is very vocal about her approval of her husband, and he demonstrates his love to her all the time. Thanks for sharing, Gretchen! Excellent post. There is a family I know that demonstrates beautifully the cycle of a woman respecting her husband flowing into the man loving his wife flowing into the woman respecting her husband… This woman is very vocal about her approval of her husband, and he demonstrates his love to her all the time. Thanks for sharing, Gretchen!

]]> By: Owen Family http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1486 Owen Family Mon, 08 May 2006 14:22:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1486 "In the ultimate sense, your marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship to Jesus Christ." -- how true!! Thank you for the recommendation, I'll keep an eye out for that book, along with Created To Be His Helpmeet, by Debi Pearl. :o)<br/><br/>There aren't enough hours in the day for all I want to do -- planning, exploring, learning, reading...the list goes on (sometimes it's too bad that I have to sleep!).<br/><br/>~Chelsea “In the ultimate sense, your marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship to Jesus Christ.” — how true!! Thank you for the recommendation, I’ll keep an eye out for that book, along with Created To Be His Helpmeet, by Debi Pearl. :o )

There aren’t enough hours in the day for all I want to do — planning, exploring, learning, reading…the list goes on (sometimes it’s too bad that I have to sleep!).

~Chelsea

]]> By: Mary Beth http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1481 Mary Beth Sun, 07 May 2006 22:13:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1481 Loved this post!<br/><br/>I have just order several boks that the YLCF gals have recommended. I will add this one to my "To Buy" list.<br/><br/>Just a note to all you single, not-attached gals out there...the books that the ladies on YLCF recemmend are good to read BEFORE you meet your man, because our hearts and minds needs to be preparing for our futures as helpmeets long before we experience the realities of being married. Loved this post!

I have just order several boks that the YLCF gals have recommended. I will add this one to my “To Buy” list.

Just a note to all you single, not-attached gals out there…the books that the ladies on YLCF recemmend are good to read BEFORE you meet your man, because our hearts and minds needs to be preparing for our futures as helpmeets long before we experience the realities of being married.

]]> By: Adrian C. Keister http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1480 Adrian C. Keister Sun, 07 May 2006 20:42:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1480 Well done again!<br/><br/>Hmm. I think more men ought to be reading your blog; it's so encouraging to hear Christian ladies seeing the truth, not that we men are sitting over on the sidelines gloating because "you're finally getting it." We have just as many hang-ups as you do, if not more. I think everything you said here is quite correct. We men do want respect very much, though, if we're honest, we'd have to admit that we don't deserve it. Douglas Wilson and his wife Nancy say many of the same things. One quote of hers, I think from <i>The Fruit of Her Hands</i>, I enjoyed was something like this (speaking to wives), "Do you want to be loved only when you are lovable? Then don't respect him only when he is respectable." <br/><br/>In the end, of course, what we deserve is hell-fire. We do not deserve respect from our loving wives or from anyone else, nor do we deserve love, or a roof over our heads, or food on the table, or an education, or a computer, or a car, or lots of books and music, or about anything else worth having. Most of all, we do not deserve our salvation. Praise be to God from Whom all blessings flow!<br/><br/>In Christ. Well done again!

Hmm. I think more men ought to be reading your blog; it’s so encouraging to hear Christian ladies seeing the truth, not that we men are sitting over on the sidelines gloating because “you’re finally getting it.” We have just as many hang-ups as you do, if not more. I think everything you said here is quite correct. We men do want respect very much, though, if we’re honest, we’d have to admit that we don’t deserve it. Douglas Wilson and his wife Nancy say many of the same things. One quote of hers, I think from The Fruit of Her Hands, I enjoyed was something like this (speaking to wives), “Do you want to be loved only when you are lovable? Then don’t respect him only when he is respectable.”

In the end, of course, what we deserve is hell-fire. We do not deserve respect from our loving wives or from anyone else, nor do we deserve love, or a roof over our heads, or food on the table, or an education, or a computer, or a car, or lots of books and music, or about anything else worth having. Most of all, we do not deserve our salvation. Praise be to God from Whom all blessings flow!

In Christ.

]]> By: Gretchen Louise Acheson http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1477 Gretchen Louise Acheson Sun, 07 May 2006 04:42:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1477 To the most recent Katie--yes, I just read that book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams. :) Check the Bookshelf for my review. :) Proper Care and Feeding is still my favorite overall...but there are definitely some other good ones out there! :) To the most recent Katie–yes, I just read that book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams. :) Check the Bookshelf for my review. :) Proper Care and Feeding is still my favorite overall…but there are definitely some other good ones out there! :)

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1476 Anonymous Sun, 07 May 2006 04:15:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1476 "The problem many women have today is that they want to be treated like a princess, but deep down they resist treating their husbands like the king."<br/>WOW! That sentance struck me our of your entire excellent post. The Bible says to honor all, but so often it's easier to focus on what I expect in my relationships rather on what God would have me give into them. I do want to be "the princess", so I guess I need to work a lot better at learning how to respect a king.<br/>Tabitha “The problem many women have today is that they want to be treated like a princess, but deep down they resist treating their husbands like the king.”
WOW! That sentance struck me our of your entire excellent post. The Bible says to honor all, but so often it’s easier to focus on what I expect in my relationships rather on what God would have me give into them. I do want to be “the princess”, so I guess I need to work a lot better at learning how to respect a king.
Tabitha

]]> By: Katie http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1475 Katie Sun, 07 May 2006 03:16:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1475 Thank you so much Gretchen for posting this review, now I'll definitely have to read this book!<br/>What amazing truths this post holds.... men most certainly do need respect, and the point made in this post can even be applied to our fathers and brothers too! <br/>I've seen in my own experience with my love that respect is #1 in every situation. Men need to know we trust and respect them enough to be our leaders. Without the gentle respect from women, men cant be all that God created them to be; warrior poets ready to fight for their princess, and their God!<br/>One book you may want to read is "Becoming the Women of His Dreams; Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For." That is an amazing book. I'd love to send you a review if you'd like!<br/><br/>God bless!<br/><br/>~Katie Thank you so much Gretchen for posting this review, now I’ll definitely have to read this book!
What amazing truths this post holds…. men most certainly do need respect, and the point made in this post can even be applied to our fathers and brothers too!
I’ve seen in my own experience with my love that respect is #1 in every situation. Men need to know we trust and respect them enough to be our leaders. Without the gentle respect from women, men cant be all that God created them to be; warrior poets ready to fight for their princess, and their God!
One book you may want to read is “Becoming the Women of His Dreams; Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For.” That is an amazing book. I’d love to send you a review if you’d like!

God bless!

~Katie

]]> By: sarah http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1474 sarah Sun, 07 May 2006 02:40:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1474 A friend gave me <i>For Women Only</i> for Christmas, and I read it all the way through in a few hours. :) Your post also reminded me of that book, Gretchen. I pray from the bottom of my heart that I will remember this and be able to implement it some day in the far distant future when I have a husband of my own. :) A friend gave me For Women Only for Christmas, and I read it all the way through in a few hours. :) Your post also reminded me of that book, Gretchen. I pray from the bottom of my heart that I will remember this and be able to implement it some day in the far distant future when I have a husband of my own. :)

]]> By: katie http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1472 katie Sun, 07 May 2006 01:34:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1472 Wow, I certainly will put that book on my "to-read" list! Although I have yet to find my man, I know that over the years, I have created in my mind certain expectations that no man could ever live up to! ;) This book sounds like a very good dose of reality, and an excellent read for anyone who is married or nearing that time in their lives. Wow, I certainly will put that book on my “to-read” list! Although I have yet to find my man, I know that over the years, I have created in my mind certain expectations that no man could ever live up to! ;) This book sounds like a very good dose of reality, and an excellent read for anyone who is married or nearing that time in their lives.

]]> By: Gretchen Louise Acheson http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1471 Gretchen Louise Acheson Sun, 07 May 2006 01:10:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1471 Kari, those books are favorites of mine as well. Check out the Bookshelf for all our reviews, but here you can find:<br/><br/>For Women Only<br/><a HEF="http://www.ylcf.org/2005/03/theres-more-than-just-care-and-feeding.html">http://www.ylcf.org/2005/03/theres-more-than-just-care-and-feeding.html</a><br/><br/>Created to be His Helpmeet<br/><a HREF="http://www.ylcf.org/2005/04/created-to-be-his-help-meet.html" REL="nofollow">http://www.ylcf.org/2005/04/created-to-be-his-help-meet.html</a> Kari, those books are favorites of mine as well. Check out the Bookshelf for all our reviews, but here you can find:

For Women Only
http://www.ylcf.org/2005/03/theres-more-than-just-care-and-feeding.html

Created to be His Helpmeet
http://www.ylcf.org/2005/04/created-to-be-his-help-meet.html

]]> By: Elizabeth J http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1470 Elizabeth J Sun, 07 May 2006 00:12:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1470 We were given that book for our wedding, and plan on reading it one of these days. :) <br/><br/>One thing I've noticed, just from observing the couples in my life, is that if a woman does not respect her husband, she most likely will not have any romantic feelings for him, either. Respect fosters romance... you can not have one without the other. We were given that book for our wedding, and plan on reading it one of these days. :)

One thing I’ve noticed, just from observing the couples in my life, is that if a woman does not respect her husband, she most likely will not have any romantic feelings for him, either. Respect fosters romance… you can not have one without the other.

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1469 Anonymous Sat, 06 May 2006 23:52:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1469 By the way, for all you guys reading this site, I recently discovered that Shauni and her husband Jeff have co-authored a book titled For Men Only. Although I have not read it, and most likely will not, it may be a good read. =)<br/><br/>-Kari By the way, for all you guys reading this site, I recently discovered that Shauni and her husband Jeff have co-authored a book titled For Men Only. Although I have not read it, and most likely will not, it may be a good read. =)

-Kari

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1468 Anonymous Sat, 06 May 2006 23:48:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1468 I am relatively new to YLCF, and have been enjoying the topics immensely. Very encouraging; keep up the good work. :)<br/><br/>Someone may have covered this already at some point, but your post, Gretchen, reminded me a lot of a book I just read a few weeks ago by Shauti Feldhahn titled For Women Only: What you need to know about the inner lives of men. It was a 'most excellent book' and I learned a lot. Basically, her book is based around seven points, of which the importance of respect was one. Another great book, of course (at least from the perspective of a single 20 year old – my mom though it was excellent as well :) is Debi Pearl's Created to Be His Helpmeet. One of the many great things that set both of these books apart is that they simply focus on our role (as women) and what we can and should do instead of complaining about the opposite gender, which is quite refreshing. Anyway, I better quit or I might overload on books!<br/><br/>Thank you for sharing your heart on many issues, and for being an encouragement to me. <br/><br/>-Kari I am relatively new to YLCF, and have been enjoying the topics immensely. Very encouraging; keep up the good work. :)

Someone may have covered this already at some point, but your post, Gretchen, reminded me a lot of a book I just read a few weeks ago by Shauti Feldhahn titled For Women Only: What you need to know about the inner lives of men. It was a ‘most excellent book’ and I learned a lot. Basically, her book is based around seven points, of which the importance of respect was one. Another great book, of course (at least from the perspective of a single 20 year old – my mom though it was excellent as well :) is Debi Pearl’s Created to Be His Helpmeet. One of the many great things that set both of these books apart is that they simply focus on our role (as women) and what we can and should do instead of complaining about the opposite gender, which is quite refreshing. Anyway, I better quit or I might overload on books!

Thank you for sharing your heart on many issues, and for being an encouragement to me.

-Kari

]]> By: Anonymous http://ylcf.org/2006/05/respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1467 Anonymous Sat, 06 May 2006 23:10:00 +0000 http://ylcf.org/wordpress/2006/05/the-respect-he-desperately-needs/#comment-1467 Three weeks, Gretchen! =D =D =D Three weeks, Gretchen! =D =D =D

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