We all dream of love and marriage, wishing our knight in shining armor would hurry up. But meanwhile, what are those potential knights thinking?
You might be surprised. Here is one young man’s wise and cautious view of love and marriage…
Love creates responsibility. The moment one person begins to love another, he or she has a responsibility toward that person. Sometimes it is never to express the love. Sometimes it is to die for the person. For a young man, it is often the responsibility to eventually provide for the woman in marriage…I sometimes hear young men castigated for not being assertive and bold in starting relationships. Although cowardice is certainly bad, some fine gents are simply waiting because they are not ready to pursue a relationship. Many of these putative cowards would be quite ready to let a girl know of their affections if they were not held back by this consideration. But they take seriously the duties that attend an expression of love.
-Will Glaser
click here to read the rest of his blog post, “On Love”
Amen to that! I had some of the same thoughts lately and it’s nice to hear a young man express it.
That was really good. Thanks for sharing that.
It’s always nice to hear a new persepective! I never thought of that!
Ah, yes, THANK YOU!
Thanks for giving us a glimpse of the young men’s side of it. I read then whole article, and I agree with many points in it. I think that it is better to wait a few years to start a relationship then to have to wait several years after already having given your heart to someone. When our heart belongs partly to someone else, we can’t give all of ourselves to God in that time of singleness that He has given us. Although in the present it may be easier if young men pursued us without being ready for marriage, they must also think about the future. It is their God-given duty to provide for the future wives in the best way they can, and many times in waiting, they are doing just that. We must be careful to not let impatience get ahead of reason.
I think that when one thinks that she is interested in a young man, it is always a good idea to pray that God will give him wisdom. If one trusts that God answers prayer and the young man still delays, it stands to reason then that he has a good, wise reason for that delay.
I read Will’s whole article and I liked it a lot. I had to laugh though at the way he made it sound like the guys don’t want to fall in love because they aren’t ready for the responsibilty and the girls are ready to run down the aisle. I’m a 24 year old female of sound mind and body who is also “afraid” of love. Love comes with responsibility for us girls, too. The responsibility of caring for a husband, house and children of your own. Also, when you open yourself up to love you open yourself up to the possibility of pain. I have begun to wonder lately why anyone would ever want to open themselves up to that. Why would anyone want to jump into such a risky situation? I guess it’s sort of a catch-22. True love is the only thing that could ever make us give up the security in our hearts for such uncertain ground. I’ve been “ready” for marriage since I was 18 years old. After years of “waiting” I’ll admit I’m skeptical that it will ever happen. At this point in my life I think that the only thing that could ever make me want to get married is love. (If love is all it’s cracked up to be; I wouldn’t know having never been bitten by the bug myself).
Now, I can hear people saying: “Wait until it happens to you…” 
But, I think the most important thing always is to live for the Lord no matter where you are or what you are doing. I’m not exactly “fleeing” love, but I’m not hunting it either…
I have to insert that when you trully love– that God-given love that you can’t ignore even if you tried to (speaking as one tried, very hard)– you don’t care about the details that seem so huge during your single years. Not that you don’t realize the responsibility– not that you don’t realize the magnitude– but God planned it and really all you can do is shrug and love with all your might. God sees you through the details.
Makes me think about that St Exupéry quote : ‘Men have forgotten this truth’ said the fox. ‘ But you must not forget it. You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed.’ (in The Little Prince)
I thought that was a really good post! I believe its wise for a man to flee at times:-)