Untouchable

It took me less than twenty-four hours to discover that my assigned seat for the conference was between two of the worst flirts there. They flirted with, touched, and gazed at all the girls sitting around us. But they kept me at arm’s length.

I would smile and laugh at the appropriate times, share a Bible with them, or let them copy my notes, but they treated me much differently than they did all the other girls. Josh even took to calling me “The Little Amish Girl.” (Despite the fact that I was wearing neither dress nor head covering!)

Halfway through the conference, I was discussing flirting with some other guys. I finally asked, “Do some girls have ‘Untouchable’ written on them in invisible letters?”

“You do,” Mike stated matter-of-factly.

“Oh, good!” I replied.

It wasn’t just the two guys who sat beside me, either. Guys everywhere treat me differently; they are more standoffish with me than with other girls. I used to think that I was somehow less attractive. But over the years I have realized that it is because I refuse to dress and act like a simple boy’s plaything. I don’t want to be someone they play with and grow tired of. I don’t want to have my heart endlessly strung along by flirtatious guys.

My friend B.C. used to wear a white t-shirt on which was printed in big black letters “Worth Waiting For.” I thought it was great that he was so committed to waiting that he’d wear a t-shirt proclaiming it.

In some mysterious way, my same belief that I am worth waiting for is conveyed in the way I dress, act, and carry myself, so that guys like Josh and Mike both can see “Untouchable” written on me, even though I don’t wear a t-shirt proclaiming it.

Do you have untouchable written all over you? Sometimes it’s not fun to be the only one the guys don’t constantly flirt with. But it’s a lot easier to be untouchable than to be touched! Touch between a guy and girl is a powerful thing. When a guy touches you in more than just a friendly way, it sets off fireworks inside you like you cannot imagine. And the memory of that touch will linger long, only making you want more and more.

The problem is, if you’re thirteen or fourteen, it’s going to be a long time before you can get married and enjoy the touch of your husband every day! Have you ever taken one teeny tiny bite of a chocolate candy and tried to stop there? It rarely works. In the same way, a little bit of touch makes you want more. And more touch leads to your purity being compromised.

Not only is touch addictive, but if it comes into a relationship too soon (and believe me, any time in your teens is probably going to be too soon!), it takes away part of the relationship that you can never get back. Think about a kiss. Is it possible to talk when you’re kissing? In the same way, other touch gets in the way of the communication aspect of the relationship. When you want touch more than you want to communicate, that’s a problem, because a relationship cannot be built upon touch alone.

You shouldn’t have to go through your teen years being touched by different guys and then cast aside. You don’t want to taste a bit of that chocolate, because then you’ll want too much too soon.

Even though it’s not always fun or easy, cultivate the untouchable look! Once you get the hang of it, being untouchable is fun. Guys will respect you a lot more. They will treat you like a lady instead of a plaything.

You will become like a delicately beautiful pink rose… Its petals are soft and velvety. And the fragrance that rises from it is breathtaking. All who see this rose long to pick it. The fragrance floats from it and permeates the air around it. But the rose has a special power—its prickly thorns can scare away those who would pick it before its time.

How do you go about being as a beautiful yet untouchable rose?